Savage Lovecast

by Dan Savage

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

  

Latest Episodes

Savage Love Episode 651

A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A woman's friend is beginning the process of coming out as a trans woman. But she wants to be help accountable. She asked the caller to send a coming out announcement to family and friends if the trans woman doesn't do it herself by a certain time. Is this a reasonable request? Should the caller shoulder this responsibility? Then! Dan chats with super-smart, forward thinking author, blogger, and internet rights activist Cory Doctorow about his book, group sex, the gig economy and period sex, among other things. Some of this interview is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And speaking of group sex, how do you tell a lady you're swinging with to go a little more gently with the blow jobs. Ouch! 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu and get $60 off at BlueApron.com/Savage This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to www.HELLOtushy.com and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought toy by OpenFit: Offering streaming workouts for every goal. Change the way you work-out today. Get a special extended 30-day free trial membership when you text SAVAGE to 303030.


Audio Download

Posted on 16 April 2019 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 650

Look at her. She's only a lesbian when she's drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she's had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry Prince Charming. He is so wonderful in every way. Except...when he wants sex he grabs her head and pulls it down to his crotch. Is this just how men ask for sex these days? On the Magnum, Dan's suspicions are confirmed by science ONCE AGAIN. This time, he speaks with Dr. Becky Lynn about the effect marijuana has on female orgasm. And, hear the tale of the older gay man, his much younger Panamanian boyfriend and the worried daughter. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Mercari, the selling app that makes it super easy to sell and ship your unused things. Sell it, ship it and get paid with Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App stores or on Mercari.com. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $45 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage.


Audio Download

Posted on 9 April 2019 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 649

A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he's not bored. What up? A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids' clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the innocent garments. Does the come actually exit the washing machine? Does it go away? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Kaytlin Bailey, host of The Oldest Profession podcast & Director of Communications for Decriminalize Sex Work. In case you were wondering, treating sex workers as criminals sure doesn't help them. And, a woman and her boyfriend want to try role playing. But she is an actor by profession, and worries that she'll feel like she's punching the clock. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP.com/SAVAGE. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to www.HELLOtushy.com and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY.


Audio Download

Posted on 2 April 2019 | 4:17 pm


Savage Love Episode 648

A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed with caution? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with comedian Kate Willet about dating Trump voters, breaking up amicably and what to do when the boner fails to show up. Also, when your boyfriend prefers bathhouses to you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $45 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.


Audio Download

Posted on 26 March 2019 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 647

A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ever like to wear women's clothes? (Spoiler: Yes.) A woman's conservative cousin has started working at a "Crisis Parenting Center," that gives misinformation about abortion. Should she confront her? On the Magnum, Dan chats with his soul brother the Broadway god Andrew Rannells. Discussion topics: black sheets, home decor, male unicorns, and Andrew's new memoir- "Too Much is Not Enough: A Memoir of Fumbling Toward Adulthood." And, here's a conundrum. A vegan is into leather. Discuss. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. For a free online, visit GetRoman.com/savage This episode is brought to you by Mercari, the selling app that makes it super easy to sell and ship your unused things. Sell it, ship it and get paid with Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App stores or on Mercari.com.


Audio Download

Posted on 19 March 2019 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 646

Yowsers! It's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophilia, incest, snuff porn, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Jens Cinguemani on to take a few trans-oriented calls. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP.com/SAVAGE. This episode is brought to you by Mercari, the selling app that makes it super easy to sell and ship your unused things. Sell it, ship it and get paid with Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App stores or on Mercari.com.


Audio Download

Posted on 12 March 2019 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 645

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned out to be a charlatan! He duped a lot of media outlets, the Lovecast included. Dan interviews the journalist from Gizmodo who outed this fraud. Crow: it's what's for dinner. On the Magnum, a woman is dating a guy who is great in every way, except! He has terrible teeth. Would it be too shallow of her to dump him over this? And, a woman still grieving over her father's death sobs when she orgasms. Is this normal? This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought toy by OpenFit: Offering streaming workouts for every goal. Change the way you work-out today. Get a special extended 30-day free trial membership when you text SAVAGE to 303030. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.   This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu and get $60 off at BlueApron.com/Savage


Audio Download

Posted on 5 March 2019 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 603

A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little problem. She gives painful blowjobs with her sharp little teeth.  After three long years, he's never complained. How can he explain what he likes down there? And on the Magnum, a man with staggeringly high libido (12 times per day sounds about right to him) is in a monogamous long-term relationship. What could go wrong? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to audible.com/savage or text savage to 500-500. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.


Audio Download

Posted on 1 March 2019 | 6:44 pm


Savage Love Episode 644

A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was circumcised. He wasn't and she told him so. How could a fella possibly not know this about himself? It is very perplexing. On the Magnum Dan has a long conversation with Johann Hari - the author of "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions."  They discuss the western world's depression epidemic and whether treatment is over-medicalized. Hari offers a new paradigm on how to truly address human suffering. And what about being in a relationship with depressed people? That's Dan's wheelhouse. Listen in. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.


Audio Download

Posted on 26 February 2019 | 9:00 am