Savage Lovecast

by Dan Savage

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

  

Latest Episodes

Savage Love Episode 603

A white man is dating an Asian man and tends to be attracted to Asian men. Does this make him a rice queen? Is it racist to be a rice queen? Can learn to feel attraction toward other races? A straight man has a great girlfriend except for one little problem. She gives painful blowjobs with her sharp little teeth.  After three long years, he's never complained. How can he explain what he likes down there? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with clinical sexologist Damian Jacob Sandler, about lethal asphyxiation. How can kinksters take the "lethal" out of that term? Are they prosecuted differently than other murderers? Yikes! And, a man with staggeringly high libido (12 times per day sounds about right to him) is in a monogamous long-term relationship. What could go wrong? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to audible.com/savage or text savage to 500-500. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.


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Posted on 15 May 2018 | 8:00 am


Dating an asexual.

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out Dr. Brotto's book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.Aaptiv.com/Savage. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code: savage.


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Posted on 8 May 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 601

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A woman and her boyfriend used to have frequent, fantastic sex..when he was drunk. Now that he's sober, their love-life is bland and scant. How can they have hot, booze-free sex? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. John Scott, a sociology Professor from Brisbane, Australia about his work studying male escorts. And, a married woman bemoans the fact that her husband won't throw her around and take his pleasure. He won't consent to an open marriage. What's this libidinous lass to do? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at www.HashtagOpen.com and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage


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Posted on 1 May 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 600

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she thinks it's true love. Should she call off the wedding? A woman spontaneously comes whenever she sits in a sauna. Why Dan, why??!! Dan chats with the charming and super-freaky Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg-- sexuality educators, hosts of American Sex Podcast, and creators of the Sex with Sunny Megatron TV series on Showtime. Clown orgies? Check. Piss Play? Most definitely. Beet juice? Yes, beet juice. And, is it damaging to tell a newlywed couple to "have sex every day?" 206-302-2064 Thanks to Zola for supporting Savage LoveCast. Zola is reinventing the wedding registry and planning process to make the happiest moment in couples’ lives even happier. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry at Zola.com/savage Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to TryWinc.com/SAVAGE.


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Posted on 24 April 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Lovecast #599

"Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she returns home to her husband who gets the job done. Should she tell the lover that he is inadequate when it feeds such a hot dynamic with her husband? On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Town! The wonderful Cunning Minx, host of the Poly Weekly podcast, is on to answer a couple head scratchers. How do you merge families? Get one giant house? What about kids? Also, how to do poly real, real wrong. Finally, a woman newly broken up with her boyfriend discovers that he's been looking at YouTube videos with titles like "How to win back your stubborn girlfriend." Should she cut cut him out of her life a little bit, or a lot? What do you think? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skincare, and sexual wellness, for men. Get a trial month of everything you need to keep your hair - for just $5 by going to For Hims.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.


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Posted on 17 April 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 598

The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsSurvive onTwitter and learn about this latest nasty piece of legislation. In much happier news, a caller who formerly suffered from Death Grip Syndrome, has made a full recovery, thanks to Dan's proven therapy program. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, at Squarespace.com/Savage, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP.com/SAVAGE


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Posted on 10 April 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 597

A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristin Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard! Call us at 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 20% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.Aaptiv.com/Savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to MVMT.com/Savage


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Posted on 3 April 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 596

A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with a couple and not inviting her. No, crying is not a solution. Sometimes you gotta reach out to a dick doc. (The more dignified word is "urologist." ) On the Magnum, Dan does just that, chatting with the good Doctor Stephen King, to answer a couple questions about curved dicks, and a mysterious clit-like growth. Hot! And, the Madonna/Whore Complex: It's not just for breeders! The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code: savage.   Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP.com/SAVAGE


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Posted on 27 March 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 595

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale


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Posted on 20 March 2018 | 8:00 am