Savage Lovecast

by Dan Savage

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

  

Latest Episodes

Savage Love Episode 629

Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On the Magnum, a caller has hit rock bottom and quit drinking. But he wonders if he can ever have a single beer again. Is it possible to drink in moderation if you're an alcoholic? Dan brings on clinical psychologist (and co-founder of CheckUp & Choices) Dr. Reid Hester to puzzle this one out. And, a heartbreaking, kind-of terrible call from a woman whose son has been convicted of sexual assault discovers "ravishment porn" on her boyfriend's computer. Oh, it is all just such a mess. We have it on good authority that you too, are a mess. 206-302-2064   Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to www.HELLOtushy.com and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".


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Posted on 13 November 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 628

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super-hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".


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Posted on 6 November 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 627

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an abortion. Because of where they live, it will take 4 hours. Should she do it? Welcome to America. On the Magnum, things get a little gnarly with our urologist pal, Dr. Stephen King. How many times you can handle hearing the words "dorsal slit" being said without squirming just a little? And, a dad is concerned that his 10 year-old daughter wants to compete for the center position on her co-ed football team. With those boys reaching down there to do whatever it is they do in football...poor dad. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to audible.com/savage or text savage to 500-500. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for  up to $55 Free postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.


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Posted on 30 October 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 626

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, things get a bit more complicated. Dan interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.” They discuss the origins of kinks, and if you can shut them off if they bum you out. Finally, a woman is majorly skeezed whenever she thinks about the existence of incest porn. She just can't go there. Dan's suggestion? ***SPOILER*** Don't go there.   Come here. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to www.HELLOtushy.com and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode of Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Away. Away makes first-class luggage at coach prices that allow you to charge your phone on the go.  For $20 off a suitcase, go to AwayTravel.com/Savage and use the promo code savage. This episode is brought to you by Chappy, the free gay relationship app for guys. Chappy is THE online dating app for guys to connect, chat and build relationships. Search for Chappy in the app store,


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Posted on 23 October 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 625

A couple adopted a disturbed dog, hell-bent on destroying their sex life! It jumps on the bed, and barks when they try to get busy, and whimpers, barks and whines when left outside the door. Dan "Dog Whisperer" Savage leaps to the rescue. Speaking of mental illness, Ellen Forney, the brilliant cartoonist behind "Marbles" is back to discuss dating with bipolar disorder, and her new book "Rock Steady." If you are or love someone with bipolar, this is the show for you. Also, you should buy her books immediately. On the Magnum, Dan chats with a man whose girlfriend suddenly left him with no warning. He came home to discover her packed and gone. Now she wants him back. Should he take her? And, hear the nasty, nasty tale of the pervvy building contractor with a terrible sense of humor and boundary issues! 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.


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Posted on 16 October 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 624

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this? 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to www.HELLOtushy.com and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode is brought to you by Robinhood- an investing app that lets you buy and sell stocks, ETFS, options, and cryptos- all commission-free.  Get a FREE stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help build your portfolio! Sign up at Savage.Robinhood.com.


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Posted on 9 October 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 623

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Blinds.com- the #1 online retailer of custom window coverings. For a limited time - get up to 20% off EVERYTHING at Blinds.com when you use the promo code: SAVAGE Thanks to ModCloth for supporting the Savage LoveCast. For 15% off your purchase of $100 or more for one time use, go to Modcloth.com and enter code: SAVAGE at checkout. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.


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Posted on 2 October 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 622

Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 'splaining to do. A woman lives in an apartment building in NYC. At first, her neighbor appeared to be really nice! Then he started sending her dick pics with his infant in the background. On the Magnum: "Honey? What would you like for your birthday?" This innocent question, asked by a 70 year old woman of her 80 year-old husband was answered thusly: "Why, I would like 2 Asian ladies to bath me, please." (We added the "please" in this reenactment.) Godsmacked, Dan enlists the help of comedian, writer and creator of The Daily Show Lizz Winstead to help answer. And, Dan counsels a miserable man, who is still heartbroken 6 months after being vaguely, but gently dumped by a woman he had enjoyed three dates with. (We considered playing a sad violin underneath his call, but Dan wouldn't let us.)  206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by LOLA, bringing you 100% organic feminine care products. For 40% off subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter SAVAGE to get started. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage This episode of Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Casper, a sleep brand that continues to revolutionize its line of products to create an exceptionally comfortable sleep experience, one night at a time. For $50 off a select mattress, go to Casper.com/savage and enter the promo code "Savage."


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Posted on 25 September 2018 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 621

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.Aaptiv.com/Savage. Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.


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Posted on 18 September 2018 | 8:00 am