Savage Lovecast

by Dan Savage

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

  

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Savage Love Episode 569

This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get himself an adult circumcision. So there's that to ponder. A high school teacher and her pal wonder why the kids are so into hickeys. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, about the infuriating phenomenon of left wing anti-semitism. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a 10% discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout.


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Posted on 19 September 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 568

A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bondage and human trafficking. She broke up with him because she just couldn't go there all the time. But now he feels shamed. Poor baby. Dan welcomes comedian Amy Miller to talk about the inadvisability of fucking comedians. Also, hear the tale of the woman with a dark power. We shall call her The Boner Killer.   She didn't ask for this. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/savagelove and enter the promo code savagelove. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.


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Posted on 12 September 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 567

A couple are dismayed that the condom keeps slipping off when they're doing it doggie style. Dan offers some time-honored tricks. Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza, schools us all about dating folks with disabilities. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Jesse Bering about penis size and natural selection. Science! And speaking of penises, can you pump that thing up and make it bigger in the same way you can stretch an earlobe? 206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at Five Four Club when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at ThriveMarket.com slash Savage.   This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Audible.com/savage.    


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Posted on 5 September 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 566

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/SAVAGE to start your free trial today.


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Posted on 29 August 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 565

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we have here? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Alexander Cheves who published a controversial article in The Advocate about what place, if any, women have in gay bars. And, a woman's best friend also happens to be her step-mother. (Same age though.) How can the caller counsel her pal on how to improve her sex life...with her father? 206-302-2064   Thanks to RXBAR for supporting Savage LoveCast. RXBAR is a whole food protein bar with no B.S. Get 25% off your first order at RXbar.com/SAVAGE and use the promo code SAVAGE. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to www.meundies.com/MeUndies.com/Savage.   This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.


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Posted on 22 August 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 564

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A  woman has started dating a man who travels a lot and has a girlfriend in every city. Should she join his sprawling harem? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Samantha Joel, in a "What You Got?" about the psychology of what make someone finally decide to end a relationship. And, a woman gets cold easily and likes to wear socks during sex. Her lovers tell her to take them off, because...visuals. Dan enlists science to defend this shivering lass.  206-302-2064 Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club- fashionable men's clothing and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at Five Four Club when you use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Thrive Market, the new convenient way to get the highest quality, natural, organic groceries delivered to your door. Try it for FREE for 30 days and get an extra 20% off at ThriveMarket.com/Savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.


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Posted on 14 August 2017 | 7:04 pm


Savage Love Episode 563

On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr. Sarah Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood in the studio to answer some gnarly medical questions. Dental dams? Check. Warty dicks? Check. Surf Shorts? Check. Wait, what? As you would expect, she handled them all with supreme calm, poise and intelligence. That's Planned Parenthood. Did you know that you can give some money to Planned Parenthood? You can!  206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Society 6 -incredible art printed on phone cases, wall art,  pillows, apparel and more. Go to Society6.com/savagelove and enter the code savagelove at checkout to receive 20% off your order. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savagelove and enter the promo code savagelove.      


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Posted on 8 August 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 562

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer and BDSM educator Mollena Williams about "sub space" -what it is, and what it isn't. Also, a woman is getting annoyed that her boyfriend keeps presenting her with highly scripted sex scenarios that probably originated from porn. How can she keep him happy but also fly off-script? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club- fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at www.FiveFourClub.com when you use the offer code Savage.   This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/SAVAGE to start your free trial today.  


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Posted on 1 August 2017 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 561

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter?  A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's fate living on the "margins of society." Dan issues a reality check and a rebuke. It's 2017 dad, not the 1800s. "Margins of Society" indeed... On the Magnum, Jon Ronson, author of "The Psychopath Test" is on to talk about "bespoke pornography" and confirms the maxim: "Everything is a thing." Also, if your boyfriend calls you a monster for learning that you are into hardcore porn, (after SNOOPING ON YOUR PHONE,) can the relationship be salvaged? Should it be? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. Today's episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Five Four Club- fashionable men's clothing curated and sent right to your door. Get 50% off your first package at Five Four Club when you use the offer code Savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage.


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Posted on 25 July 2017 | 8:00 am