Savage Lovecast

by Dan Savage

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

  

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Savage Love Episode 590

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing.  Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Everlane.com/Savage


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Posted on 13 February 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 589

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,)  is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning to go on a date with one of his acquaintances. What the man knows, and the friend doesn't is that this date is a transman. Should he tip off his friend ahead of time? Or let it unspool in it's own sweet time? Yikes! The robots are making the porn now! Erotic film director, screenwriter and producer Erika Lust is on to raise the alarm about our dystopian porny future. After a lot of seriously GGG effort, a woman has finally learned to enjoy anal sex. The problem is she comes too fast, and then wants that dick OUTTA THERE before her man can get his orgasm. Dan has some power bottom tips to share.   Got real just there didn't it? 206-302-2064 ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at ThredUP,com/SAVAGE This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".


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Posted on 6 February 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 588

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of  "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones.    And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage.


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Posted on 30 January 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 587

Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman! This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America."  They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy,  and kids sticking things up their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code: savage.   This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to MVMT.com/Savage  


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Posted on 23 January 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 586

This week is no big deal. Our guest is just Cecile Richards, the PRESIDENT OF PLANNED PARENTHOOD. She graciously joined us to discuss her mighty organization, the battle they do daily to provide sexual health, and to answer a question about a woman's yucky Trump-supportin' mama. If, by some weird fluke you have not yet donated to Planned Parenthood, you are commanded to do so immediately. Also, a woman and her husband don't quite know how to ask a couple they are friendly with if they would like to watch them have sex.   It could be awkward. 206-302-2064.   This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.


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Posted on 16 January 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 585

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS. Do them now. And, can we accurately gauge how good a parent someone will be based on how they treat a cute, little puppy-dog? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at http://www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.


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Posted on 9 January 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 584

A woman is facing old school, mild harassment at her law firm, of all places. How can she learn to shut these men down without looking like a Grumpy Gertie? A man is dating a new woman who seems great. But! She reminds him so much of his abusive ex, that he can't even. Should he explain his sudden absence to her? Break up cleanly? Try to make it work? On the Magnum, racial erotics ahoy! It would appear that white men want black men to fuck them. But what of the black man who just wants to get fucked? Dan enlists Marquis- a black man who knows what the hell is going on here. And Dan explains the nature of the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship to a nervous lady. Don't be nervous. Take a deep breath and call 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at Bombfell.com/savage.


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Posted on 2 January 2018 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 583

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge her brain of them, or try to embrace them? 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at http://www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE.


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Posted on 26 December 2017 | 9:00 am


Savage Love Episode 582

A woman's 13 year-old brother wants to shave his crotch. And now mom is FREAKING OUT and the whole family is in disarray over the pubes she found in the sink! A straight couple gets recognized in a bar from an online profile they placed together a long time ago. The woman in the couple pretended it wasn't them. Was this a) wrong, b) chicken, c) sex shaming to man who noticed them, or d) all of the above. On the Magnum, Dan chats with feminist writer Vonny Leclerc on how hard men have it now that they aren't allowed to flirt with underlings. And, a woman is terribly nervous about the Prince Albert her husband wants to get. Dan offers gentle reassurance. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by STDTest.com. Visit STDTest.com/savage and get tested today. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at aaptiv.com/SAVAGE.


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Posted on 19 December 2017 | 9:00 am