Savage Lovecast

by Dan Savage

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

  

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Savage Love Episode 770

A nice bi man just wanted to join a nudist community and hang out with his nudist homies, not wearing any clothes and being naked. He certainly DID NOT want to be ogled or groped by the creepy leader of the group. So now what? Should he try to oust the creep, give up on the group, or return and try to avoid him? A woman learned that her boyfriend has been leading a secret double life. Have you ever led a secret double life? Well! This man's secret double life involves an online dom commanding him to crawl around like a dog and urinate in the cups and cookware in their home. So. Your secret double life seems a little less "edgy" now doesn't it? Dan's advice...may shock you. On the Magnum, learn about the sordid, gnarly history of sexually transmitted diseases. Dan interviews Professor Ina Park about her book Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs. Oh, the things you will learn! Finally, hey listeners! A little help? Let's all put our heads together and a find a way to convince this caller to let his fiancé peg his ass already. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to . Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. Visit . If approved, you’ll get fifteen dollars off your first order of ED treatment.  


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Posted on 27 July 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 769

Women beware! A new form of negging has emerged. If you followed a hook-up on Instagram, but he didn't follow you back, it could be INSTA-NEGGING. A trans man iplans to do a lot more butt sex once he has bottom surgery. How can he prepare on a daily basis? On the Magnum, is it ever ok to leave your wife when you are in your 70s? Dan and senior sex writer Joan Price disagree... And, a lesbian begs all those straight couples who pour into lesbian bars at closing time looking for women to be in a threeway with them to Please. Just. Stop. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.


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Posted on 20 July 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 768

A bi woman wants to try three-ways with her boyfriend. He enthusiastically agrees. But it's been a while since she's been with a woman, and wants to have a trial run with just her unicorn. Now, he's getting a little nervous... A woman with a 12 year-old son has been toying with the idea of starting an Only Fans account. The problem? Her son might see some of her content. How can she have this very difficult parental conversation? In one of our favorite interviews of all time, Dan brings on linguist and literature professor John McWhorter, author of "Nine Nasty Words: English in the Gutter: Then, Now, and Forever." They gab about the origins of the word "fuck" and "faggot," how the nature of profanity has changed over the years, and why some words are both sexy and unutterable. And, a man planning a hook-up hears that they can go to the other guy's home, but only if his "actual dog" watches. Is this innocent and ok or so, so far from innocent and ok? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. Visit . If approved, you’ll get fifteen dollars off your first order of ED treatment. This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at .


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Posted on 13 July 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 767

Dear Emily Post: What am I to do when I encounter my boyfriend in the basement enjoying large amounts of cocaine, in women's attire, with a gentleman we both know very well? A kinky woman already agreed to open up her relationship with her boyfriend. So why did he have to go out and cheat? On the Magnum, a very ethical stripper, bartender and sugar baby has contracted MRSA and worries she is putting others at risk. Not sure what MRSA is? Well, you will  know plenty about it after you listen to Dan's interview with infectious disease expert Dr. Paul Pottinger. Does she have to quit her jobs? Find out. A woman with a great sex life always has to think about porn in order to come. Is this normal? Must she change her erotic inner life? 206-302-2064      voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to . This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at .


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Posted on 6 July 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 766

After a dazzling "sexcess" story, we launch into three tales of dreadful parents. Conservative, manipulative, disrespectful, bigoted parents. If you have this kind of parent, our hearts go out to you. Are you a thoughtful gift giver? This woman is, and she REALLY wishes her boyfriend would reciprocate... On the Magnum: Save the lesbian bars! For they are disappearing.  Dan interviews Lea Delaria (from "Orange is the New Black") about the Lesbian Bar Project. Kick in, won't you? https://www.lesbianbarproject.com/ And, who knew saline could be so sexy?!   If you're into that sort of thing. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to .  


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Posted on 29 June 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 765

A mother in Central America is worried that her son is being a little too risky when he walks home from the beach in women's clothing. When she confronts him about this, he calls her a transphobic, homophobic boomer. Teens! Am I right? A woman is afraid that her boyfriend will cheat on her. And yet, she fantasizes that her boyfriend is cheating on her. How can she preserve her self-esteem while indulging her cuckqueen instincts? On the Magnum, it turns out the ancient Greeks were wrong about cunnilingus! Dan interviews Mark Haskell Smith author of "Rude Talk in Athens" which explores how comedians in ancient Athens brawled with each other. One of the worst insults was to accuse another of going down on a lady. Silly ancient Greeks. And, are the terms "tops" and "bottoms" only for the gays? And can straight polyamorous people march in the pride parade? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by : a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get 10% off your first order.


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Posted on 22 June 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 764

Our opening "Sexcess" story should flood all you postpartum parents with optimism. A married straight couple has an arrangement where she can go outside the relationship, and he remains monogamous to her. All good. But she wants to tell everyone about it, and he wants to keep it under wraps. Who wins? On the Magnum, meet the elite proctologist and anal surgeon, Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical. He and Dan talk about centering pleasure and beauty in proctology. We loved Dr. Goldstein, and so will you. And, a bewildered father would like to recommend good, ethical porn to his 12 year-old son. Got any recs? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to . This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh: fresh, pre-measured ingredients and mouthwatering seasonal recipes delivered right to your door. Go to and use code Savage12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping.


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Posted on 15 June 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 763

Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette for asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what? On the Magnum, a proud, strong feminist woman has rape fantasies that flood her with shame. Dan brings on Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, to unpack the origins and nature of problematic fantasies. And, somewhere in the deep South, a bisexual man wants ungodly things done to him... 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.


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Posted on 8 June 2021 | 8:00 am


Savage Love Episode 762

Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr. Tobias Kohler from the Mayo Clinic. He and Dan discuss the safety of this utterly routine procedure. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan blindsides him with a question about smashing balls. And, can you cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle with a conservative Catholic when you are a liberal Jew? 206-302-2064         voicemail@savagelovecast.com Keep it under 3 minutes, ya'll. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to . This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at .


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Posted on 1 June 2021 | 8:00 am